I honestly do not remember the last time I blogged. Between juggling life, school and chasing dreams, lets just say life happened. However, now that we are almost ending the year, I would like to share some of the biggest lessons i have learnt in the year 2018.
1.It is okay to be vulnerable.
One of the biggest lessons I have learnt this year is to come to terms with my personality and still remain sane. I have a very tough persona. Ever met people who are like eggs. Yap, that’s me.Tough on the outside yet soft on the inside. Literally the other day my friend said that i’m like a robot, I look like I have no emotions at all. Till the day I found it hard to express what I feel to even my closest friends, I never knew mental toughness would really affect me. The state of exposing my emotions to the right people is actually okay.Now, I love my personality, I love my toughness and bluntness to emotions but I also came to terms with the fact that I am human, I have feelings and emotions and I can never be a structured robot. When i’m hurt, its okay to cry about it and feel bad about it, even in public. When someone offends me, it is okay to express my sadness to the person and show even in tears, that they really did hurt me and not beat myself up for crying. When I love something no matter how and what it looks like, it is okay to show it to the world, express my love for it because it is me in love with it and not the world. However, be vulnerable with the right people.
2. Allow growth to happen.
Dearest reader, at one point in your life you will need growth, whether physical, emotional or spiritual. Sometimes growth happens in the most weirdest forms of life that we literally want to unplug and leave. Life is a journey, it takes a progressive motion and not a substantive process. Walking through 2018 has made me see how really growth is not always in the perfect loam soil. Seedlings grow into trees through thorns, through rocks, through rivers and even through sand. The strength and zeal to withstand the ‘not so perfect growing ground’ determines their outcome. Are you at a rocky season today, bloom through that rocky season. Are you in the deep waters, grow and withstand the waves and bloom. Every season in your life is certainly for a reason so just allow growth to happen. Trust the process no matter how hard it is.
3. Take risks.
Uuuurggg!! This has certainly been a crazy, rocky lessons. Up to 2017, never knew or thought of taking any kind of risk at all. I always had the idea of following a certain direction and never getting out of my comfort zone. Probably that why I never make new friends easily. The world is changing and I realised, in a good way, that you will not just sit there, fold your hands, get a degree and another one and another one without having a difference in you. What makes you different from another person in your uniqueness and you can only find your niche by taking a risk to find it. Try new things. Participate in a competition. Apply for awards. Go to conferences and listen. START THAT BUSINESS. START THAT INITIATIVE. NOBODY, AND I REPEAT, NOBODY WILL BRING YOU THE OPPORTUNITY UNLESS YOU GO FOR IT. Trust me on this one. I remember seeing people doing things and I kept asking myself, especially the fact that they were my friends, why they never show me such opportunities. You know what I learnt, it will never be brought to your table, go look for it and take a risk.
4. Value on the right people is always reciprocated.
Well, I wont say much about this but always remember those you value will always value you. Those you treat kindly, they mostly treat you the same way. Value may not always be reciprocated but with the right people it will.
5. To love is to die to self.
I keep reminding myself this lesson every single day just to really get a hold of it. I mean, what is love without selflessness. If I say i love you,I basically agree to kill some of my selfish interests and find a way to fit your interest. Dearest reader, is it your family that you love, is it your education that you love, is it your boyfriend or girlfriend or any friend that you love, at one point, you will have to die to self. I mean even the Lord himself had to sacrifice His son Jesus because of the love he has for us. To love, is to daily die to self. Any relationship involves two or more people and it is not always about you.
That is all for now. I am honestly hoping to be consistent this coming year.
May all your vibes this season and the next say I got this.