Lifestyle, self love

Dear Mirror

Dear Mirror,

You look at me like you want to say something, you see what I see but i hide from what you show me.If you could talk, what would you say?Would you say I’m strange, because I think I am. Would you say I’m weird because of the countless facial expressions I’ve shown you. From  frowns to winks to grins to snarls to tears to laughter. You have seen me through countless incidents and you still sit still. I have tried a lot in front of you and yeah,maybe you have seen it all. Isn’t it weird that you just sit or stand pretty with an intention of reflecting who I am? You fascinate me. There was a season that I hated you. You were grumpy and all what you showed me is what you think I am and not what really I am. I woke up every day to get ready and when I was ready I would really try not to stumble into you because girl, you were mean.77097860-happy-smiling-little-girl-trying-new-dress-and-looking-at-mirror-vector-flat-cartoon-illustration

I know sometimes you remind me of who I am meant to be and I appreciate you for that. What I don’t like is when you try to reflect an image of what I am not. Those grumpy days when all you can do is to stand pretty and mock me. Sometimes I think it’s all in my head but sometimes it hits me so hard  that I think it’s reality. Mirror mirror on the wall, you’ve seen it all. You’ve seen my ugly days and my brighter days. With you I have learnt the art of self love. With you, I am still learning to live a life of that is not full of what you reflect about me, but what I intended to mirror to people. Not the pretty smile or the beautiful face but the kind heart and the impactful soul.I look at you and I get reminded that self love is indeed a journey, some days are sunflowers but others and stinging nettles. I know that the someday is a comeday.83335697-mujer-mirando-a-sí-misma-en-un-espejo-en-el-vestidor-mujer-probándose-un-vestido-en-el-vestidor-mujer-qu.jpg

Dear mirror, thank you for taking me through the journey of self love. I know i’m almost there and when i reach my destination, you will still sit pretty and show me who i really am.



Be careful not to grow the ‘sunflower in disguise’

When I was a little girl I used to love looking at plants. I remember this particular time I was so enthusiastic about a plant that grew in my neighborhood and I was so sure that it was a sunflower plant. It looked exactly like the sunflower and was Infact as beautiful as the sunflower plant.

For years I was sure that I had seen and even interacted with the sunflower. However years later as I grew, I noticed a difference.

I always knew the sunflower gave sweet seeds one could feed on but the particular plant did not seem to give anything. It Infact looked like it was competing for survival among other plants. It was not as vibrant as it was before. That is when it dawned to me that that plant was not a sunflower plant. I later learnt that this was actually a weed. Yes, a weed. You can imagine the shock. I mean, how could they could they look so similar yet one is just a villain.

Now a weed is a wild plant that grows where it is not needed and Infact competes with the other plants for food, moisture and space. At first it may look like an innocent little thing but its interior motivate is actually to get the real plant out.

Dear friend, there are people or things in our lives that sometimes are sunflowers in disguise. We entertain them thinking that they are good and beneficial but they are not. There are things or people that come into our lives and they attract our eyes and we excited to have them but in real sense they have an ill motive towards us. Even the devil dresses like an Angel sometimes. These ‘weeds’ will take away your joy, your happiness, your salvation and get rid of you in good time.

Be careful. When the deal is too good, think twice.


Shield of Faith

It is uncanny for someone to tell you to walk through fire and believe that you will come out fine and even at times better. Hebrews 11 talks of faith, the confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. The confident assurance that the Lord knows the process and He is holding us all the way is faith. Without faith, no one can see God. Here comes the hard part. When we talk of faith, it is easier said than done and I have firsthand experience in this. There are times when God has clearly instructed me to do something or to trust the process but I look at the terrain and want to turn back. Just like Peter when Jesus asked him to walk on water, he starts the journey but when he sees the wind, he freaks out and starts to sink. Peter knew that Jesus is Lord but still was of little faith. Isn’t that what we do everyday? Focusing on the wrong things! Yes you probably applied fo a job interview and there in no response yet, Jesus is saying focus on me. Maybe you are wondering how your school fees, rent ,loan or anything will be paid, Jesus says focus on me. It is going to be easy tough but this will pass. And yes, I assure you that storms will always be there. I assure you that it won’t get easy. You will probably lose people along the way but focus on Jesus.

Put on the shield of faith with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. The devil will always want to steal your faith in Christ. His only purpose is to steal,kill and destroy he does that in whatever way possible. He will fill your thoughts with every sneaky little lie and worry just to make you disbelief.

Trust that even though you will walk through fire, you will not be burnt. Even though you walk through the valley of the shadow of death, nothing will harm you. Jesus Christ wants us to have faith in Him. Faith in His promises and this faith can only be built by listening to the word of God.


Power made perfect in our weakness.

There’s a story of a man. Sad, wounded, crushed and bitter. He has nothing. He recently lost his job. His family just left him.

There’s a story of a girl, depressed, lonely, tired and is on the verge of giving up.No friends. No family. Relationships aren’t working for her anymore.

There’s a story of a homeless mother and her two toddlers. It is the cold season and she has almost nothing to cover her children with. She looks up to the sky praying everyday to a God she barely believes in but trusts that prayers are answered. She has covered her children with an old rag worse than one covering ancient mummies but that is what she has. There’s a damsel in distress who believes that only a man can fill the void in her heart and can cover the emptiness she feels.

There are millions out there crushed, rumpled, bruised, depressed, sad, lonely, grieving and many more. Whichever category you are in I want to encourage you today. You have a father who understands whatever is weighing you down. You have a friend in Jesus Christ. And behold,He says, I will be with you till the end of time. I will hold your right hand. Fear not for I have redeemed you, I have called you by name and you are mine. Your name written on palms of His hands. And oh how He loves you.

Be strong and courageous. In that moment of weakness,His grace is sufficient. His power is made perfect in our weakness.

Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?”(Jeremiah 32:27)

Hold on. It’s going to be Ok.


Mortal ‘gods’ of the heart

We wake up every day wanting, longing, craving for something. As human beings it is in our nature to want something to capture our affection and fill the void in our hearts. We crave for things to satisfy us and that make us believe we can create our own feelings of contentment or control our satisfaction in life. These things may be our phones, our marriages, our friends, our work life, relationships and pretty much any thing that we have put above God. These are little mortal gods that are rooted deep into our hearts and soul. We bow to them unknowingly, we worship them unknowingly and we even offer sacrifices to them unknowingly.

Relationships and marriages sometimes break not because of disagreements but because one partner was placed as a god in the relationship. One partner was expected to satisfy every need and feel every void and he/she failed not because he/she wanted to fail but because no man/woman can satisfy our desires, our wants our cravings except the Lord. You wake up to your phone every morning, scrolling down through social media, searching, looking, desiring for something. The desire and want never stops and has taken root in heart. It has made you shift from the importance of the real God to the importance of a mortal perishable ,little god in your heart. It has dug deep, steady, unshakable roots in your heart and you fail to see that. Soon the root and plant will bear fruits. Fruits of depression, loneliness, lack of self esteem, in-satisfaction, selfishness and many more. The most bitter fruits of course.

You will have a mouth but cannot speak, eyes but cannot see, ears but cannot hear. Just like Jezebel, blinded by the idols of baal. Even though she knew the Lord and  was told to repent, the baal gods had blinded her from the truth. They  made her deaf and dumb. They caused her heart to carry  bitterness, grief, sorrow, outrage and evil desires. Nothing good came out of her and she became the root of the spirit of Jezebel in churches. The church in Thyatira (Revelation 2:21) was manifested by the spirit of Jezebel. The same spirit from baal gods that caused Jezebel to kill prophets of the Lord. The same idols that caused them to cut their bodies and shout his name from a sleep, or maybe a journey that was never was.A lifeless idol that had no ears, no eyes no nothing.(1st Kings 18:27) The church in Thyratia had been given time and a chance to repent but they were unwilling. Their  hearts were rooted in idols of sexual immorality even though they knew and loved the lord. That is what idols do to our hearts. Psalms 135:15  says that those who make these idols will be just like them, perishable,blind to the truth, deaf and unwilling to listen and dumb.

Idolatry  will tell you if this makes me happy, i deserve to be happy and i will do what works for me. Idolatry will tell you, maybe being in this relationship completes me, after all two become one. Only God completes you, Him and Him only will satisfy you. Man will offer temporary fleshly fulfillment and will soon will be blown away like chaff in wind. If you are willing to compromise your beliefs for it, then it is an idol. Does it pull you farther from God? It is an idol. Just because you do not literally bow down and worship does not mean it is not an idol. Idols can be fleshed out or formed by craftiness and certain need of self centerdness.

Remember, ‘God doesn’t want to be your top God, He wants to be your only God’. (Wes Adams, Radically Christian)



The Battle of the mortal and the spirit.

It was time. She walked towards her enemy head high, shoulders back and with blazing fire in her eyes. She had been preparing for this battle for a long time. This was not her first battle but was her first winning battle.The former had involved multifarious man made strategies that seemed pleasing and victorious. They were indeed sweet suggestio falsi’s which of course wounded her instead. After all, lies will always be bitter in the end,no matter how sweet you made it at the beginning. Countless had she lost and none had she won. This was her first confident battle. She remembered how carelessly she waged war over the enemy with her physical strength. She would not repeat such a mistake again.

The ambience in the battle field was tense. The trees gracefully bowed as she majestically strode towards the villain. ‘For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood,’ she thought, ‘but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.’ This was her motivation.That it is not by might, not by power but by the spirit. As she was preparing for the battle she was sure this was more dangerous than any earthly confrontation. It was a demonic cosmic power dressed in mere earthly design but carrying wickedness. Just like any soldier she had to be fully dressed and strapped with a powerful armor. She had to strategically fight this war. Wars waged carelessly are wars lost, and the only way she was to wage it powerfully is by believing that greater is the one living in her than he, the enemy, living in the world.

There she was with the belt of truth buckled around her waist. This was no ordinary belt. It bared truth that would overshadow and destroy the deceiving lies of the enemy. Simple truths that would cast the deceiver into the abyss of darkness. Then there was the breastplate of righteousness which is the righteousness purchased by her Savior at the cross. It was issued to her at salvation and is designed by God to protect her heart from evil and deception.On her limbs were shod of feet ready and zealous to spread the gospel truth. They had the fire and the energy to take the gospel all over the world and shame the enemy.On her left hand, she carried the shield of faith. With this she would extinguish the flaming arrows of deceit, depression, grief, sickness, unemployment and the likes.On her right hand she held the sword of the spirit which is sharper than any double edged sword and penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit. She would destroy the enemy with this sword which is the Word of God that became flesh and through this word all things were made and without the word nothing was made. At the mention of the Word, every knee shall bow, in heaven, on earth and under the earth. At the mention of the word the flaming arrows will bow. To crown it all, she had the helmet of salvation. This was her most priceless possession. Without the helmet she would be vulnerable that the rest of the armor would be of little use. Through salvation, she had received deliverance and was saved from the wages of sin thus assured eternal life. This was not something she merely earned but was a gift from God.


She was fully dressed and ready but the victory was already hers.



My two friends recently asked me if I was a feminist. They had gathered from how i talk, my passion for women empowerment. I brushed off the question. Honestly, if you would have asked me about two months ago whether i am a feminist or not, I would have said I am a feminist. I however did quite some research on feminism facts and how is it upholding my christian values. Feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of sexes. Somebody else would describe feminism as the belief that men and women should have equal rights. I totally support that. I however realized that some notions about feminism are not worth it. I read this notion that as feminists, women should not allow men to hold doors open for them. Another said that since men can go shirtless and are not questioned about modesty, women should also do the same thing.I could go on and on.These are views from different people and ideas they have placed around feminism. But what does the scripture say about this?

Scripture presents human kind as totally dependent on God and not on self. God’s design for humans is not a patriarchal society and neither is it a feminist society. The competition on who is the best in the society is never worth it. Fact is, we, men and women are different, even physically. The idea that women should be independent is okay. The idea that women should be in leadership is very much okay. No one should be denied a chance or opportunity because of their gender. No one should be despised because of their gender. What’s not okay is the idea that women should be the aggressive and angry people in the society simply because a man is higher.I believe women cannot find liberation in trying to be superior than men, they can find liberation in building themselves,fighting for what is right and becoming better persons.I love to see women in leadership and I feel so proud of that. I love to see women in business and it makes me so happy. Most of the moguls I look up to are women. What made these people be up there is not rage, anger and bitterness towards men but hunger and zeal to be better persons even in a patriarchal society. Should we fight for equality? Of course yes!But as we desire this equality, let as look at God’s design for human beings.Don’t be a bitter, angry woman who looks at the male gender and only sees competition. We are women for a reason and we are men for a reason. Fact is, there are thousands of men and people who feel women are already empowered and the conversation is too much. Fact is also there are thousands,like me, who feel we are not there yet.

All in all, Galatians 3:28 the scripture says …nor is there female and male, for you are all equal in Christ. God created man to be equally valuable and purposely different. If we value the God created both man and woman in their own image then it is only right to value both of them equally. No one higher that the other so no more competition. Only God is supreme and only Him knows why He defined womanhood as it is and manhood as it is.

What are your thoughts on feminism?

Christianity, Lifestyle

You fell; what’s next..

We all have embarrassing moments that we always hide in the closet so that no one can see. I remember one time I was late for class and I was running down the staircase. I don’t remember what exactly happened but I guess I missed a step and boom! It was a mixture of a skid, a thud , a scream and everything else that comes with all that. The position that I landed on was even worse. It was so funny that I ended up looking like I was tying my shoes and not falling. d4f87e4425a38b73cba217a11eea8d95

I remember looking up just to confirm that no one had actually seen me. I wanted to get up so fast and actually pretend I was tying my shoes. I was so embarrassed.

Typically, that’s how most human beings are. When we fall, we never want to be seen in our falls.We don’t want to display our broken pieces in the open. We want to show that perfect lifestyle, but for what!! I feel like it’s time we realize that it’s okay to fall and hiding from the outcome of the fall never solves anything. You may receive criticism when you fall, whether positive or negative. Others are just going to stare and do nothing. Essentially, the outcome of what people say may build you or break you. All in all you will learn a lesson.Being overly-protective is sometimes overly-dangerous. You may be locking out potential advice. You may get negative critics but from that you learn too.

Only God is perfect. We are humans, flesh and blood so we, in one way or another will fall. It’s okay to be seen in the fall. Embrace the moment, dust yourself and move forward.

Christianity, Lifestyle, Uncategorized


Imagine waking up one morning, then receiving a call from an anonymous person that your friend, your sister, your relative, your schoolmate just committed suicide.The reality of his or her death will flood so many questions in your head. Why? What happened? Did we do something wrong? How could she do this?It becomes a puzzle.Well, he/she will be already dead and you will not know how to solve it. Kate Spade, a celebrity designer, recently committed suicide. This is not the first and will not be the last suicide unless we start talking about this and reaching out to people, even with just a greeting. A few months ago I wrote a post about sinking deep and it was basically explaining  how we can get to dark  places sometimes but we still can get out. This is the link to the post,SINKING DEEP.

I have not been through depression but I almost slipped into one. In fact I thought I had depression till I found out that depression is far much worse than what i went through. Depression is a serious mental health disorder that is characterized by depressed moods or loss of interest in activities. Apart from the depressed mood one may have reduced interest or pleasure in activities, insomnia, restlessness, fatigue and sometimes even impaired ability to think. Some cases of depression may even lead to hallucinations. According to the World Health Organization, depression is the most common illness worldwide and the leading cause to death. Yes, not cancer, not diabetes, not High blood pressure but depression. Don’t get me wrong, all these diseases need to be talked about and people need to be aware but people are turning a blind eye on this particular one.

I am going to be very transparent. I have been through a period of mental mood disorder but it never slipped to depression.It was so bad, so so bad that I would never wish anyone to go through that. If only a mood disorder can cause me that much pain, can you imagine the harm depression could cause.What I went through was only a snippet of it and I didn’t like it at all. I feel like it’s time our response to such issues  change. Honestly, you can not expect one with depression to open up if you don’t reach out. We need to know how our friends are doing people. Reach out and talk. Mental health is a serious issue. If we don’t approach people and know they are are doing, how do we expect to know what they are going through. Looking back at the time I went through that mental mood disorder, I wish I would have gotten someone to talk to or be vulnerable with. Telling someone you’ll  pray for them is helpful yes, because our help comes from the Lord but as much as you pray for them, talk to them. These people are going through so much and all their thoughts can tell them  is ‘I am a failure’, ‘I can’t go on anymore’ ,’Why should i live’ ,’Nobody wants me, why would they even want me’.  It is a battle of the mind and if we don’t move now, the mind will win and eventually we lose these people.

I challenge you to day to at least talk to one person and how they are doing. You never know. Maybe you will save their lives.

If you are reading this, you are not a failure, you are amazing, you are important, you are strong, you are worthy and most of all, you are a child of God.